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Consciousness: babies and T-model

Sunday, August 16th, 2009

Yesterday in the Times there was an article entitled, ‘Babies’ brains are more sophisticated than we ever believed’:

http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/families/article6793658.ece

Quite a few of the readers’ comments on the Times’s article are interesting, revealing and worth reading.

TWAIN’S VIEWS

Well, I’ve known how much brighter babies are than adults give them credit for ever since I was a baby myself, later when my younger brother was born and now when I see babies out and about. Yesterday, the whole of London seemed to bloom with babies since the sunshine brought out all their proud parents and their prams. Some were also in harnesses on their mothers’ backs or making their first attempts at walking. One little baby girl in a bright pink baby suit decided she couldn’t figure out which order her feet were supposed to go to make a step, so she plunged herself onto her derrière in protest — LOL. She’ll probably grow up to be a campaigner and do sit-ins. Another baby decided he wanted to show off his ability to put his big toes into his mouth. Cute.

Anyway, I didn’t need any Barbies / Sindys / teddy bears as a kid because I had a real live, kicking, screaming, gurgling, learning human (Twain) experiment, bundle of joy in our family in the shape of our youngest. There was enough of an age gap between us for me to actually treat him like a scientific study case rather than just go “Goo-goo-ga-ga, awwwwww,” over him!

I used to put him through his paces to test his mental, physical, audio-visual and emotional dexterity and consciousness. That started happening when he was 3 months old and my parents decided they could trust us to help him do his muscle strengthening exercises. This involved putting him on his back and gently stretching out his limbs, whilst counting to him in Mandarin with each movement and then holding up brightly colored objects to see whether he was:

(1.) able to follow the object around;

(2.) able to detect when an object had been swapped; and

(3.) able to anticipate whether we were going to put the object near his nose / his hands / us.

He was pretty good at all of these tests. His special talent was more audio than visual, though. Once he could walk the first thing he tried to do was switch the TV on for the sound. Maybe that explains his musical talents now.

Before he arrived though, I’d been experimental with kids younger than me when I was about 4. I babysat a neighbor’s little 2-year-old and earned HK$2 per day for my efforts. That baby, though, was definitely not as bright or inquisitive as my younger brother. She was quieter and more introspective.

With my own children — the ones that will make my mother a grandmother — I plan to record and document all my experiments with them. That’ll be fun!

T-MODEL OF CONSCIOUSNESS

So I was thinking about this whole issue of, “What’s consciousness and where is it,” my father’s coma situation and was also wondering whether the Internet’s version of the Global Brain might enable us to produce a proxy for our natural brain, the location of consciousness and this is what’s emerging as my model:

By medical definition, my father was considered to be “unconscious” which meant that the ECG (electrical conductivity graphs) couldn’t detect any discernible voltage that might indicate electrical activity in his brain. He also seemed to be unresponsive to instructions and actions from the nursing staff. Yet when I visited I got the distinctive impression that he was conscious so I set about doing my own experiments to test for his responsiveness — over and above whatever the ECGs and daily physical routines / procedures the hospital staff were doing.

I reasoned that, according to medical literature, we’ve identified certain areas in the brain which relate to cognisance (or recognition of faces / voices), communication and command/control over our physical limbs. Similarly, in the way in which the Net is forming we have ways of cognisance (via avatars and images), communication (text, images, IMs, emails etc) and a command/control function in the coding which paths all those IF mouse is clicked, XYZ happens or WHEN text is input, insert into database type commands which appear in Boolean, Javascript, AS3, Squeak and every other OOP (object-oriented program) which makes up what we call the World Wide Web or Net.

So I started to make the connections between all the literature (including business psychology models) I’d read since childhood, my own observations of how the brain works in situ (including young children and spending time with my grandparents as much as daily interactions with people @ work and @ play), my father’s situation and my work on the Net and this realization sparked:

* WE HAVEN’T DISCOVERED CONSCIOUSNESS YET BECAUSE WE’RE LOOKING IN THE WRONG PLACES AND WITH THE WRONG TOOLS! What if it’s not via ECGs and MRIs alone?

Then the challenge becomes, “Well what model or framework can we build to detect it and guide us to finding the right tools?”

Through the interactions with my father it became apparent that he had cognisance of who I was and also of Elvis and Pavarotti when I plugged in his music headset. His facial expressions would change subtly but perceptibly. There was also moistness which formed in his eyes and showed up on his lashes. He could sense and was moved by the music, that’s how I interpreted this moistness. I can imagine how frustrating it must have been for him: an intelligent and articulate person who was in a vegetative state.

To the hospital staff, he was a patient number. To us, he was ORGANIC: our fellow journeyer through Life’s ups and downs, evolving and mutating along the way. He was the one who — together with our mother — taught us how to walk, talk, read, write, laugh, cry, imagine, be and a billion other shared experiences (good and bad). Just as he had comforted us, washed our faces and held our hands when we were relatively young and dependent, so it was our turn to hold his hand, wash his face and do whatever we could to comfort him. The sensation of touch was another way for me to gauge his state of being.

Here too I got the sense that he was conscious and aware he wasn’t alone and that we were with him. He couldn’t grip my hand back but occasionally there was a pulsation on the tips and it would become warmer.

After a few days, it struck me that whilst he’d lost functional ability of his communication, command/control, collaboration and coherence faculties I didn’t (and still don’t) personally believe that he’d lost consciousness entirely — only the consciousness as currently defined by medical information and the tools available.

What’s irrefutable is that we haven’t definitively found consciousness or its location yet. If we had, I’d probably have read about it in The Lancet, New Scientist, Wired, Nature, Scientific American, British Medical Journal, Neurosurgery Quarterly etc. (i.e., any of the specialist medical publications listed here: http://www.medic8.com/Journals/All.htm).

So I started to think about, “What are the core elements of consciousness then — if the medical one is incomplete? Maybe once we find the core elements we might be able to narrow down the zones within the cortex where consciousness is triangulated.”

Culture, I thought, must be in there somewhere. Each of us is born into a particular culture and that DNA inherited from our parents must contribute to our consciousness, its course and its shaping in our histories, here and now and futures.

My father had a sense of his own culture because when I spoke with him in Chinese, again there were those subtle changes in his face. When the nurse(s) came to follow through with their procedures and addressed him in English I could see that his face was expressionless. If I read a passage to him from a book on plants, that expression was different from when I read a passage from a historical Chinese novel. When he was listening to Pavarotti there was a glow to his face which was different from if I played a Chinese female singer from the 1940s and 1950s.

Anyway, more recently whilst tracking developments on the Net and the building of “The Global Brain” I realized that culture is a core component here too. We talk about Semantics and yet the definition of semantics means different things to different people (around the world, across genders, traversing cultures and educational / professional reference points).

To Tim Berners-Lee and the W3C it means a set of ontologies to help us classify data objects. To me, it means those ontologies PLUS taking into account cultural and perceptual factors like subtle nuances, double entendres, potential lost in translations, the differences between male-female communication etc.

I think also of the coherence component. We can have ontologies which stand up in their own right and yet are not coherent in the whole. So, for example, the logic of their classification doesn’t synch with another’s. Paris in RDF form is a location, a proper noun and a fictional character from Homer’s Odysseus but, presently, if we went on the streets and asked people, “What does Paris mean to you?” the answer would not be “Capital city of France / Paris Hilton / Paris, Prince of Troy.” John / Jane Doe on the street is more likely to say:

* It means romance.

* It means the Eiffel Tower / Sacre Coeur / the Louvre / La Rive Gauche (the Left Bank) etc.

* It means Sartre / Voltaire / de Beauvoir etc.

* It means an eye line that’s different / compact / elegantly distinguishable from London, New York and Toyko: fewer skyscrapers, more central planning.

* It means expensive / chic / beautiful / etc.

So is this set of classifications coherent with the noun set? No, it’s not. That’s because the adjectives set hasn’t yet been accounted for in the W3C design (I’ve accounted for it, though, in my model and algorithms).

Within the coherence component we also have to think about the clustering approach and whether the Bayesian tree filter approach is the optimal model for clustering. I would argue not (but that’s another post and some more emails between me and the MIT Collaboratorium team).

Once we crack the coherence component, the next ones to focus on would be consideration and creativity. What tools can be developed to harness or enhance those?

Again, if we compare the Net’s potential Global Brain with the actual human brain we can see that according to my model, if we can establish the definitive components and where they reside (cognisance, communication, command / control, collaboration, coherence, creativity, consideration and culture) we may pinpoint the holistic manifestation of consciousness itself.

That’s something good and positive to work together towards…….

Documentary shoot

Saturday, August 15th, 2009

Here’s a photo of the central lounge of the location where we shot my segment of the documentary on global consciousness, how it applies to the Internet and what I hope the future holds.

On the day we went to do some location reconnaissance a handful of paparazzi were lurking in wait outside. Not for me, of course; I’m simply a Jane Doe. It was for a singer/reality TV/gossip tabloid regular called Peter Andre, who’s estranged from his glamor model/reality TV/gossip tabloid regular wife, and who was apparently in the building for lunch.

The juxtaposition of this made me LOL. Here we were creating a documentary involving consciousness, intelligence, sharing knowledge (art, science, culture, business and the Internet) and the evolution of our species, and outside was a pap pack interested in capturing Peter Andre’s state of being over his estranged wife’s new involvement with……………….a cage fighter.

LOL — life IS weird and its weirdness is what makes it so wonderful!

Anyway, during the shoot itself we were in one of the meeting rooms where the director (Alex) and his editor/assistant (Bron) set-up the lighting and decided how they wanted the visuals. They made it a really relaxed and enjoyable experience which was great. I’ve seen and read about the hectic and pressurized nature of film shoots involving up to 1000 people with mechanical cranes holding equipment to control the lighting, sound and cameras so it was quite interesting to experience a small crew.

I have good faith the documentary’s going to be successful and will challenge us all to re-imagine what consciousness means to each of us, to others and what we can do about contributing to global consciousness about major issues which need solving. Plus simply as a piece of directorial art it’s going to work well, even if my segment isn’t going to be as visually amazing as some of the other contributors’.

The documentary will be showcased in September (more details later).

MY HANDS AND FEET

Readers may have noticed that in my own mini videos I never appear onscreen. Only my hands and my feet are given any airtime so the documentary will be a first: the first time my face appears. I only decided to agree to this because the subject matter is a serious one, “What is global consciousness and what should we individually and collectively do about harnessing it in relation to the Internet?”

The reason only my hands and feet have appeared to-date is because I believe we’re not about how we look. Who we are and what we mean and represent is about the journeys of our lives, the people we touch and what we can do that’s of value — hence hands and feet.

Yes, I do have very distinctive, smooth and expressive hands. Alex the director called them “particular”. Over the years people have suggested that I could become a hand model for adverts and magazine shoots. I just regard my hands as the vessel through which I can write, type, paint, code, knit, cook, hold / shake people’s hands, take out the trash, move objects around and play instruments with.

In fact, they’re not that special. It’s my brain that’s really “particular” — except that can’t be seen on screen except me as a “talking head”.  LOL.

Would be quite interesting to see a scan of my brain when it’s twaining concepts…………….Ha ha!

Consciousness: love, loss and learning more about Life

Saturday, August 15th, 2009

I’m currently making arrangements to catch-up with someone I haven’t seen or thought about much in many many years. She’s the person for whom I wrote the poem, When, and was Master of Ceremonies for at her wedding ceremony. The poem was my insight on how people from completely different worlds can collide, discover that what they share in common matters more than differences, fall in love and have hope for their family’s futures.

A lot has changed between us since then…………….

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WHEN (© Twain, 08/2000)

When we first met you were a stranger,

A danger,

A possibility unknown,

Alien to my senses,

A million miles from home.

When our eyes first met,

A thought revolution,

A friend or foe,

A million questions manifold,

An open invitation to explore.

When we first spoke,

A free fluent tongue,

A question, an answer flowing to and fro,

A whisper of insignificant differences,

A stepping stone to new sensations.

When we first laughed,

An infectious explosion,

An expansion of warm friendship,

A bridge between life’s wonders,

A reminder of shared similarities.

When we first fell in love,

A moment continuous eternal,

A collection of experiences and conversations,

A promise of sharing life,

A synchronicity of separate souls.

When we first imagine,

A marriage everlasting,

A happy future for our family,

A circle of contentment unconditional,

A memory of today.

ADDENDUM

When we are no longer as One,
Away,
Apart,
Afar,
Alone will — forever — be a stranger.

Feel free towards the forces of love,
That shine through and show the way once more.

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I added the addendum because recently I had a dream. In the dream, her husband appeared to me for the second time in a year.

Readers should be aware of — but not spooked out by — the fact that her husband passed away several years ago. The circumstances I don’t know and I didn’t ask; if she wants to tell me when we meet she can. Although at some period in our histories we were close, by the time he passed away, we were no longer in touch and I discovered purely by accident that she’d been widowed; the photographer at their wedding told me.

They were a well-suited, intelligent and glamorous couple: both doctors, both from “good families”, both professionally driven. Now, she’s a widow at a young age — too young.

Naturally, I sent my condolences but I have to be honest and say I had no particular desire to see her again and to be reminded of memories which were upsetting for me. The last time I saw them both I demanded to be let out of their car at a busy roundabout because I didn’t want to listen to them any more and I walked to the nearest metro in the pouring rain.

Her husband had spent some time trying to get me to leave my job in the big bank to do something for them. I refused, sense prevailed and we broke off contact.

Anyway, her husband has appeared in my dreams in what I interpret as seeking my forgiveness and my help to enable his wife to overcome her grief and to move forward in Life. He knows well that I have the ability to transform situations and people, to make things good and whole again — not in some supernatural / religious / mumbo jumbo way but simply with my humanity, my humor and my smart sense.

The reason they asked me to be Master of Ceremonies was because as he said, “You’re the only person we trust to make sure everything runs smoothly on the day, to give everyone a great time and be the person who ensures war doesn’t break out amongst our families and friends.” In fact, her parents and most of her other friends disapproved of their union and I was the only one who was steadfastly there for them throughout their courtship.

As it turned out, their wedding day was simply………..BRILLIANT and beautiful and a triumph of love. My MC-ing and coordinating of the guests, the caterers, the band, the photographers, etc. went well. Luckily, the sun also contributed a lot to the success of the day.

I am “different” and I’ve always had some awareness of this. My friend herself has commented on my uniqueness and how special I am — like others whose life paths have crossed mine. My brother says that I’m the “driver of our family”; that is, when I’m at the driving wheel of anything, we all journey and get to the right destinations on time. When I’m not, things don’t get done with the same effect. My dearest friend GC noted that it took me 8 hours to produce a strategy for Project ART which would have taken him 8 years to (and he’s got 50+ years of professional experience, lol).

None of this means that my ego shoots off for Pluto. Instead, I’m conscious of my responsibilities, my relative position in our colony of billions of ants, bees, ladybirds, locusts, spiders and butterflies, my Life’s purpose and what really matters.

So I will see her to be that connection, that conduit, that channel from loss to love again.

What recent events reminded me of is that our lives and we are constantly evolving and moving forward, but sometimes we need to reach a hand out to the past too. That hand that may help someone get back up onto their feet and be ready to walk the path(s) of their own Life and discover its wonders once more.

For them to become conscious and to love instead of going through Life as sheep, robots or sleepwalkers. To actually…………LIVE and not simply exist.

Viva la consciousness.

 

@T: new blog design

Saturday, August 1st, 2009

This morning I decided to update my blog design to a newspaper format created by Christian Gnoth and available under GPL with Wordpress. Naturally, I went into the CSS stylesheet and customized the fonts, colors and margins for personal choice.

I hope you all like the new design!

YouTube is refusing to play ball with the “TWAIN IT!” video, so it may not be posted today, :*(.

The Global Brain: a film-maker wants me to contribute about consciousness?

Friday, July 31st, 2009

This morning whilst shooting my video to explain how I’m discovering and solving the missing keys to the Global Brain, Semantic Web and 360-2020 consciousness with my perception-emotion tool, I happened upon this comment on my knol:

Hi Twain

My name is Alex Gabbay. I am a filmmaker based in the UK currently making a film on consciousness. The idea sprung from a forthcoming exhibition on the brain involving eminent scientists and artists. I am contributing to the exhibition by making a film on consciousness that provokes discussion but does not pretend to have the answers.

For it, I am talking to neuroscientists, artists and anthropologists about their work on consciousness. I was extremely happy to find your knol on the Global Brain, while researching Berners-Lee and other contributors. I feel it is extremely important to include this perspective in the film.

Your own personal motivation in the introduction was moving. My motivation is to provoke discussion on a subject that to most of us defies definition and yet defines us and our world.

Is there anyway of getting in touch with you for further discussion re the film?

Alex

Okay, now I’m going to Google him and see what films he’s made previously…………….

Oh and when I release my video, it will become crystal clear that I didn’t write it as some purely theoretical construct or critique of current limitations.

I have “Twained” the various concepts with CODE and implementable solutions which will transform

LINKING DATA ===> MEANINGFUL DATA

(and I don’t mean NLP taxonomies and ontologies alone) . I mean a perception, emotion, relation and contextualization matrix / dimension that synchs with the way the Web currently works and can move it closer to TRUE SEMANTICS, wherein man-to-machine and man-to-machine across different media more accurately interpret the other’s meaning.

Watch Twain space and playpen……………..:*)

Twain vegetarianism: today’s the last day!!!

Friday, July 31st, 2009

And so my month-long vegetarian trial draws to a close…………

It’s been something of a revelation about how the human mind and body can adapt to a new situation and sensation. As I mentioned in my June 30 post, my mother said I woudn’t be able to complete it because of our family’s intrinsic love of seafood and meats:

http://www.alwaysthetwain.com/blogs/2009/06/30/twain-vegetarian/

However, I have managed to be disciplined and innovative with meat alternatives as these photos and videos show:

I could quite happily continue with vegetarianism. It’s helped with my sleeping patterns, female cycles and sense of healthiness. However, I am also aware that there are essential nutrients which are found in seafood and meats which are good for my physiology so I’ll be returning to those sources tomorrow.

A major lesson I learnt is that, psychologically, I can deal with less meat than I previously thought so even after I return to eating meats, I’ll be consuming less of it and try to be as free-range and line caught as possible for the sake of animal welfare and the environment.

Now, what I have a serious hunger for is my Golden Aroma Chili Crab:

So that’s what I’ll be making this weekend — hurrah!

The Semantic Web: the Twain key

Thursday, July 30th, 2009

Shooting a long video to show how I’m applying AJAX, PHP, AS3 and SQL in my perception tool and where that will complement and advance Semantic Web frameworks. Plus the video covers some other cool Ajax for UI design.

Hopefully will post it on Saturday 1st August 2009.

Google, Yahoo + MS: share performance

Wednesday, July 29th, 2009

Erick Schonfeld writes in TechCrunch about “Wall Street’s Reaction To The Microsoft-Yahoo Search Deal: Not Good” but he presents only the chart for YHOO.

http://www.techcrunch.com/2009/07/29/wall-streets-reaction-to-the-microsoft-yahoo-search-deal-not-good/

Any smart investor or analyst would know that it’s much better to analyze all three at once like so:

* spot on the day of search deal announcement, 29 July 2009

* 5 days leading up to 29 July 2009

* 3 month leading up to 29 July 2009 (to take into account the end May-June launch of Bing)

If we have only the YHOO graph as per Schonfeld’s opinion, the deal is under-contextualized. In fact, MSFT shares traded up 1.4 percent whilst GOOG’s fell 0.82 percent against YHOO’s drop of 12.08 percent. Over the 3-month chart we also get a better view of market activity in GOOG shares around early June (please see the blue line on the graph) whilst MSFT’s gained ground.

So that’s another example of why I read tech blogs with a SUBSTANTIAL dose of salt. Their analysis can be incomplete and of an insufficient analytical quality.

It’s how to differentiate journalists from trained corporate strategists, investment analysts and/or investment bankers. Simple things like sourcing data for insights and how the information gets spliced and diced.

MS Bing + Yahoo search = Google killer?

Wednesday, July 29th, 2009

Er………probably not. I’ll present the case from a 360-2020 perspective on Google’s search strategy as well as other channels and products which support this core business.

Firstly, I’d recommend that readers go to Google’s site and read through their recent earnings reports carefully and also refer to my post on GOOG’s Traffic Acquisition Costs (TAC).

http://investor.google.com/

Next, please watch this Google Tech Talk with VINT CERF on “Shifting to a Global Consciousness” and then compare whether MS or Yahoo! have imagined or associated with the global consciousness or global brain concept much.

Answer: lots of great innovation from MS Labs wrt haptic interfaces and connective communications but little on global consciousness. Ditto Yahoo! whose BOSS semantic API is interesting, but again not about the Global Brain.

Now take into account Google’s commitment to global consciousness aka the Global Brain on 2 core platforms:

(1.) Google Knol

(2.) Google groups

Then add in what it’s doing in the renewable technologies space (facilitation and investment).

As for the core business, please consider also these key search strategies from Google:

* video search, leveraging from YouTube

* social search with the imminent Google Wave

* semantic search in the upcoming Google Squared

* mobile search on multiple devices (Google is currently responsible for almost 98 percent of mobile search)

That’s a matrix comprising horizontal and vertical leverage synching search capabilities, btw.

Incidentally, I’ve watched the media reports on the likely effect of the MS+Yahoo tie-up on Google’s share of the share market and heard all sorts of mistakes from the journalists and analysts providing commentary. Importantly, none of them mentioned the key search strategies I list above, which SO obviously point to Google keeping apace and ahead of its competitors in the search space!

On the BBC, one Internet analyst said that the combined MS+Yahoo share will be 25 percent whilst Google’s is 75 percent. “Okay…………….,” says Twain who immediately thinks the analyst’s made a mistake so goes and does her own analysis and discovers……

According to comScore, Google’s share of US search market was 65 percent in June 2009 whilst MS+Yahoo combined was 28 percent. According to Hitwise UK for the month ending 27 June 2009, Google was responsible for almost 91 percent of search traffic in the UK whilst 5.3 percent was atrributable to Bing+Yahoo combined.

This is an example of how it’s important to do our own analysis, cross-verify what the media presents us as “facts” and independently connect the dots and make sense of what we’re presented with. This is true when we watch major news channels as much as when we due diligence a balance sheet or when we work on complex transactions. Attention to detail, interconnecting silo information and cross-verification is a form of risk management which prevents corporate busts and global financial crisis.

Cause + effect, as I noted previously.

In any case, more information on the MS+Yahoo search sharing deal is available here:

http://searchengineland.com/its-finally-official-microsoft-yahoo-make-a-deal-yahoo-gives-up-on-search-23197

http://searchengineland.com/live-blogging-the-microsoft-yahoo-search-press-conference-23202

* http://choicevalueinnovation.com

http://yhoo.client.shareholder.com/eventdetail.cfm

http://www.microsoft.com/msft

The battle between brains and beauty: both win

Wednesday, July 29th, 2009

Here’s an insight into how a woman’s brains can save her from making regrettable mistakes, and how brain chemistry can conquer genetic reproduction desires.

Yesterday, I found out that one of my ex-managers has returned to London. Not the brilliant MBA Columbia one but the MBA Bocconi (summa cum laude plus prizes). He’s the one who sat me in a private room and said:

(1.) We were destined to meet. I feel like you’re my soul-mate.

(2.) You have the most beautiful smile I’ve ever seen.

(3.) You remind me of my mother. She speaks 5 languages.

At surface level, female readers are probably thinking, “Awww……That’s so sweet and romantic! He sounds like a lovely guy and a real catch.”

Yes, there was a real catch involved. Not his Rolex or my natural body clock could blind me to this.

Unfortunately, he didn’t give me due credit for being brighter and more perspicacious than I am pretty and cute. The catch was this: I felt really sorry for his wife, from whom he said he was separated, AND for his girlfriend that he was telling some other woman (a relative stranger) she was his “soul-mate” after being in her presence for only about 2 weeks.

Naturally, my brains won the day. It beat any flattery charms to my ego or vanity about my looks.

This experience was how I learnt that, sometimes, men don’t marry their soul-mates or even for love and that they can be confused and confusing creatures without coherency, genuine commitment or sense. It was also a revelation about how some men may act as if they have the answers, but actually they’re less adept and equipped than women at working out the truths of Life, of career and of love.

Most importantly, I learnt that a woman’s intelligence knows no bounds and her brains as much as her beauty is what makes her succeed and discover true love. When I was promoted into CEO-Chairman’s Office, based on my IQ and hard work, he wasn’t at all happy for me or supportive.

That shows whether a man genuinely loves and respects a woman for who she is, what she can do and her brains or just, fleetingly, is into her looks.

Thankfully, true love and lifelong friendship came and found me in its own time and it’s not him. That’s good to know.

Years on, I still have my brains and I still have my beauty. Thankfully, what I don’t have is someone who doesn’t genuinely love me and is not my soul-mate.

Yes, and in our lives we will happen upon all kinds of unfortunate experiences and people who are less than conducive for our development, increase in intelligence, contribution to society or advancement of good intent.

Instead of becoming bitter and hateful about it, we should seek inspiration from better role models and simply learn to overcome those challenges because the reward is:

* TRUE LOVE

* LIFE

* ENLIGHTENMENT

* OPTIMISM

* SHARING

* DISCOVERY and…………………

* LOLs